Dear Anita,

Thank you for your reply, it is extremely helpful for me.

I agree. I am sorry to reply so late, I had a busy day. You are right, he was impulsive, and I do remember some other moments, that I did not mention here, that confirm that. It feels fine to remember it. I am, however, quite consistent (maybe too consistent) regarding my actions and feelings, maybe I would need someone similar in the future, if this is possible.

Yes, indeed, a congratulation is the nice thing to do in this situation, I would have probably done something similar. I think this comes also from my perception that maybe he told those people that I was insane, as he did with me and his other ex, and this makes me feel uncomfortable. Somehow, I feel like the perception is that I was the intruder in their love story, that he was unable so much time to be with his dear one because of me.

Regarding the last paragraph, I really hope I won’t feel as desperate and that what goes wrong is my fault, I need to further work with myself so I will be able to identify, if not change, when this will happen again. I really hope it is possible.

Thank you again! I hope it would be fine if I post again here, in some weird moments.

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