Dear kangarootje:

You wrote: “I made some big mistakes in the beginnen of my relationship, I thought keeping information, not telling everything would be better, now of course I know that’s really not the case.”

What information is it that you kept to yourself…If it is about your previous relationships with men, unless it involves something criminal that might still come up, then it is not of his business and it was not a mistake to not have told him. After all, look what is happening to him after you told him- he can’t handle it, can he?

We shouldn’t confess to our partners about our pasts, as if we were criminals (when we were not)-

So, what was it, the information you are referring to. No need to give any details you are not comfortable with, but I can’t proceed with no information about the … nature of the information which is the issue of his distress and yours.

anita

Kangarootje your name sounds Dutch to me. If you want to talk I am here. I think you both need some time. And try to understand that he is suffering from Manic depression and speciousness is part of illness. Curiosity about others past, also part of it. Go behind your back and look for your history also part of it. What I can tell you, you both need some time for your selves. Heal from the past wounds. you don’t need to tell everything but being honest is a good thing. At some point my dear if some one cannot let your past to be your past I don’t see any healthy relationship there.