First of all i say Ex but i really mean nearly a relationship because lucky for me it fizzled out before anything of any significance took place.

I have managed to distance myself from an individual who despite the appearance of having a bubbly personality and a likable social butterfly is actually a self serving and manipulative insufferable know-it all who thinks she has the right to walk all over people.

Despite being initially attracted to this aspect of her character I know can see the other side to it which has left me quite frankly nauseated.I was stalked and labeled by her peers and forced to reject activities which once made me happy because unfortunately for me she has managed to weed herself in and convince others of her well natured , intelligent and fun loving free spirit.What it boils down to is her selfish need to have control.

I soon felt the effects of her psychosis when she began to leave indications that she “did not feel safe in my company” by telling me outright that she kept a GPS on her person so friends would know where she was if she was out with me, or that she would not want me to know where she resided even though i never expressed any intention nor needed nor wanted to know .If i tried to talk to her she became apprehensive at which point I backed away only for her to approach me again.Maybe it was it was an attempt to stay friends and nothing more at this stage but i definitely did not push matters.In fact all my friendly intentions and only those were being pushed away even though i did feel at some point that i was actually beginning to like her as more than that, even though already alarm bells should have been ringing as i noticed how she would have very changeable personality traits from one moment to another

We exchanged a lot of text messages until at one point her paranoia became obvious as i brought in discussion the phenomena of Near Death Experiences-it drove her to raise an alarm that i was threatening her which was already ludicrous, however through her (cyber)stalking and candid gossip of me she became aware of some aspects of my life which happened to revolve around the most painful aspects of it.Thus began the sarcasm about me and even more paranoia when i apparently read a link on a topic in which a person of the same name had been killed, which only served to fuel her paranoia that i was hinting or making some kind of threat.Again after alerting peers who where already poisoned by her previous banter i now became the object of some hate mail which initially i regarded with spite but which became increasingly violent in nature.

If you are reading this by now I am sure that your viewpoint even as you regard violence against women of any kind despicable as i do , that there is something abnormal in all of this and that i was right in backing off to the extent of not wanting to talk to her.The mails stopped after i sent her a note apologizing ( for something i did not do) proving both that she/her peers was/were the origin of the abominable messages i was receiving.

i was portrayed as a violent , resentful and bitter person who could not take being rejected and sought to have some kind revenge upon her. Now any individual with some sense knows when it time to walk away for good from something which has gone so sour but my problem is being left with all the bad taste in my mouth, having an environment poisoned against me and feeling sick over the way that she thinks she can interfere in my life with extremely sarcastic tones in her messages where she seems to poke fun at my weaknesses.How do you curb ones reactions to these provocations?it is said that distance cannot resolve what memories bring to life but what else can i do to uproot the feeling of nausea each time i have to deal with such an individual?What do you do when insult is added to injury?

• This topic was modified 10 years, 9 months ago by BRUNO.