None out of the norm… hes jealous of him because he felt like my mother puts my brother before him and babies him.She did do alot for him just wanting him to get his life together but Mind you my brother is now an adult working with a child of his own taking care of himself  an takes good care of his child but my father STILL feels the same way an brings up things from the past.

I believe she is just staying true to her vows she doesn’t see a way out. It would only be over if he says so he dictates so much in their relationship even when things are going right he manages to see wrong if from years awhich prevents progress

yes i do. I also said realize who he has in his life now. it’s not fair that we should all suffer at his will ya know. I’m not saying my grandma was perfect but I definitely know she and my grandfather loved him and did their best to raise him into a descent man. But my family members outside of immediate all say he is spoiled. I believe that to be true as well, my grandma said clearly that she didn’t want him living at her house because she was fearful of his behavior and he stayed there against her will. this happened after our house was foreclosed on. He tried to get me put out on the street because he was unaware when he put me out of home I was staying with her helping her. When he found out he was heated an wanted me gone now he is living there with my grandma an my mom lives in her monthers house who is now deceased but she is there at my grandma’s  house more than anything to take care of her. My brother lives with his child’s mom’s family for the most part but he STILL comes back there periodically for breaks and he gets a attitude saying “he doesn’t pay rent” or contribute as if he does himself let alone is it his house!  I don’t get it it is as if it was his back up all along for him and us to fend for ourselves.

Honestly I am still trying to figure that out. Which way I am heading I don’t know. Still have yet to find out where I truly belong in life and how to cope with things and accept them for what they are. Just taking it a day at a time. Trying to stay positive but i have been depressed lately.

But see I’m not saying my mother didn’t hear him out about his childhood. That’s an issue I would have to ask. But i will say at 50 plus years later that is still NO excuse. Also my mother became part of the picture in helping my grandma because my other family members stopped coming around to check on her ( they don’t want to be around him) and simply because my dad is pure LAZY. His obsession with tv and movies has only continued he does feed her but bathing her changing her and all necessary essentials my mom is the consistent one on the matter.Otherwise he can’t do it alone. He claims he love his mom that’s all he has etc but I don’t trust him. I feel like he’s doing it because he has no other choice to now. But that is interesting you said that i never looked at it that way but i highly doubt he resents her for that because he asks for her help. He acts helpless so she can do everything.When i lived there with my grandmother(after he put me out) it took him months to visit her which is why he didnt even know i was there and when he finally did it was because of turmoil at home and he had no where to go so that just let’s you know how he is. He is all for self.

As for me i really am just confused. I been on a emotional rollercoaster. I care about the man I’m involved with he treats me good respects me etc but he has alot going on in his life. And honestly I question what TRUE Love is because I’ve never had it from the male figure I needed it from. All the guys I have been with have hurt me so I’m apprehensive scared to commit to something that could turn out for the worse. My feelings are up and down deep… down I know that he loves me an cares for me but im harboring  fear of rejection and lack of trust insecurity an those things make me want to pull away. Make me question his love even when it’s unlike the way I’ve been treated before(in a good way). I recently just stopped responding to him yesterday just to clear my head and figure out what I want and he has been texting me throughout the whole day concerned if I’m alright even at 4 in the morning saying he hasnt heard from me etc so I know that he cares about me l… just need to figure out what I want and deal with my own issues first I think.

I felt like what I needed to do was free myself from him and no longer be involved. I did try to cut things off with him and explained to him why I felt the way I did and he immediately came to see me. Took me out to lunch and we talked. We recently went out to the movie as well…When things are good they are good…They just aren’t great because I don’t open up like I could… and I don’t know I fear that maybe Im going to lose him to his kids mother because she still wants to be with him. So its like a guard is still there on my end to protect myself. Sometimes I feel like its too good to be true in a sense and don’t know what to believe.