Hi ladybug its a toughy alright they can come in all shapes and forms thats the problem its very hard to distinguish especially if its what you have grown up with and its what you believe to be normal.

Keep reading about it you will find the answer these are great books children of the self absorbed,its not you its your mother there is loads of stuff online but use specific frases or you will come up with relationship stuff alot of people don’t believe its possible but unfortunately it is.

Xx

Hello Ladybug,

I just wanted to let you know you aren’t alone! It feels like I could have started this thread myself. Starting to see both of my parents for who they are has been a very emotional experience for me. While my mother doesn’t see the change I am going through, she is facing me becoming my own individual person separate from her, and she doesn’t like it, especially if I have different opinions. My parents both turn things around regularly to me as well.

Recently, I have started to put some distance between myself and my mother for separate reasons. It’s been difficult, but suddenly I have had a lot of free time because I’m not listening to her problems – free time to focus on myself, my needs, my life. I don’t know if that would be beneficial to you at all? It’s helping me feel less drained, and build some confidence away from them, without making me feel crazy.

I’m sorry I’ve not been able to offer any words of wisdom — I hope others will come and shed some light. I will be watching this thread with keen interest, and hope you feel comfortable to share with us if you want to.

Take care,
Norit