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  • October 16, 2013 at 7:44 am #43869
    donnie6
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    Hi Josh
    First things first slow down a bit and breathe a little. You are only young so don’t panic about life.I have been in the armed forces so know the crack. The army has a basic swimming test which you must pass and after that there is very little swimming involved unless you get involved in swimming for the Army. The other forces I’m not sure off, so if your serious about a life in the forces use these two years to overcome your fear and practice your swimming, get strong and apply again.
    It’s difficult is a breakup I’m going through one myself and I wouldn’t wish it on anybody what I’ve been through. It happens and all you’ve got to think is that if you’ve been the best you can be to this girl that’s all you can do. You never know what’s round the corner . I joined up at 18 had a girlfriend, broke up and after 18 years we are back in touch how spooky is that.
    What I’m saying is be good to yourself , and don’t give up on your dream job and stay out of trouble.It will happen just believe and if it doesn’t put it down to experiance.
    Let me know how things go

    October 16, 2013 at 2:36 pm #43884
    Jo
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    Hi Josh,

    it saddened me to read of your very real distress but what I felt came through your words is intelligence and drive. You have detailed each of your challenges coherently which indicates they are not about to overwhelm you any time soon. What a wise decision to get out and go for a walk! I was not as sensible as you and found myself virtually unable to move for several days after a recent event. I hope that the walk helped and I wonder if perhaps that may also continue to help you as you could develop an exercise programme at home. You also have access to the Internet and wonder if maybe studying a language may be a way to spend time usefully and I imagine would also be useful in the military.
    I hope that writing it out has helped and that solving your practical problems will help with your emotional ones . I also hope that knowing other people think your situation currently sucks helps too. My life experience tells me that it will get better for you and hopefully sooner rather than later.
    Look after yourself

    October 17, 2013 at 11:51 am #43920
    Helpful Angel
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    Hello,

    “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” ~Martin Luther King, Jr

    First: my advice is to definitely listen to your heart. It is difficult when you have so many challenges coming through at the same time but it is worth it. Also take your time and talk to your family about the decisions you want to make. Good communication within a family is key to success in your life. They love you and it is already a great thing. They will continue to support you with your search, that is another great thing.

    Second: Perhaps there is a local bureau you could go to for advice on courses and qualifications you can do which will always be useful in your life like a First Aid course. It is certainly needed in the military and these courses could open doors to a brighter future. You will be happy to enrol as they often run throughout the year and so you won’t feel you missed any boat and will get a sense of achievement you are looking for right now.

    The great thing about doing a/this course is meeting other people who can help, make friends helping you recover from your past experiences. Also, when you do the course you can always speak in confidence to a qualified teacher or tutor who will help you and guide you with your needs. You will regain strengths!

    Good luck!

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