My husband is highly depressed. It always lingers but I haven’t seen him in this much pain for about 3-4 years. We recently moved out to our own place. Prior to this we were renting a back house on his families property. When we lived there he had a lot to blame his issues on.. his parents.. his awful neighbors.. our living conditions etc. Now that those things have been eliminated he’s still left feeling unhappy and I think that is what has triggered these emotions again. Some days are good and I think progress is being made but then something triggers him and just like that we are back to that low point.

I’m struggling to see him this way. He has even said suicidal things to me that hurt like hell. I want to fix his problems and heal him but no matter what I do or say it isn’t enough. How can i help him? I’ve tried to be optimistic and tell him that he’s been down this road before and he persevered.. that it’s not his time yet and together we can get through this. Never do I dismiss his feelings and tell him “get over it”. But sometimes he will listen and sometimes he gets angry and tells me that i don’t get it and i’m making it worse. It kills me inside and i’m finding myself in my own depression as a result. I feel alone because I want to help him but it’s not working. So again my question is how can you comfort and help someone who is losing hope? I’ve suggested natural supplements such as Sam-e which he is taking but he will not seek therapy. He tried it once before and that lasted about two sessions.

It’s really taking a toll. Sometimes he will get irrational, angry, and jealous due to insecurities i’m sure don’t stem from me. We’ve been together 13 years and I’ve always been loyal and loving as hell.. it’s just affecting us in so many ways.

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