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June 15, 2017 at 3:40 pm #153532
Punkin
ParticipantI’m sorry that you’re struggling. I, too, go into these phases I guess you could say, where I just go on auto pilot and spend money I don’t have on things that I think will make me happy. I know how disappointing and discouraging it can feel when you realize you’ve dug a bit of a hole. I have a problem opening up to my friends as well, but I recently went through something that sort of forced me to talk to one of my close friends about it. Try not to keep things locked away in your head. Let yourself lean on someone. When I finally opened up to my friend it was like a weight off my shoulders. Since I have opened up, I haven’t felt the numb, depressed feeling I felt I needed to distract myself from. I feel some tough emotions actually, but I feel like I am working on them instead of pushing them down and ignoring them, and I think that is helping. If you can’t be open with a friend, maybe try a counselor since it’s a safe and judgement free environment. It’s scary to be vulnerable, but it’s worth the risk I think. I also had a professor say in a lecture once that keeping secrets, no matter how small can be extremely draining because you’re constantly keeping up appearances. I think that was what caused most of my anxiety, keeping this problem to myself like it was a secret. Now that I’m not hiding I have one less thing weighing me down. I wish I had advice for how to get back on track financially. In my own situation I feel my main option/priority is to find a second job until I’m in a secure place, but I don’t know if that’s an option for you or even necessary? I hope you find the solution you need, and just know you’re not alone 🙂
June 16, 2017 at 6:43 am #153624Kat
ParticipantDear Punkin,
Thank you so much for your thoughts and for sharing your experience too. . I really need. I put on a happy face when I’m around people and I am just way too embarrassed to admit the kind of mess I have put myself into. I have been thinking of getting a second job..just trying to figure out how. I know I have to do something about it. Sigh.
I appreciate your time and your kind words. Thanks again.
June 16, 2017 at 7:02 am #153628Anonymous
GuestDear Kat:
You wrote: “I am hurting for reasons I cannot comprehend”- it is my understanding that healing from your depression is in comprehending those reasons. Not comprehending what ails you is not about a lack of intelligence but a fear of the pain involved in such comprehension.
The pain is there anyway, but comprehending, understanding its origin involves a greater awareness of hat pain. And a person doesn’t want greater awareness of pain… shopping is one activity that distracts from such awareness.
anita
June 16, 2017 at 3:09 pm #153728Punkin
ParticipantKat,
You’re welcome 🙂 I hope today you feel better just by getting it off of your chest. Something else I’ve tried to help my situation is selling items I really don’t need or probably shouldn’t have purchased anyway (you can try online or maybe have a yard sale). It helps get the clutter out of your life, which really does help your brain feel better, but it might also help you tackle some of the burden from your finances. I also have found that a quick 3 minute mindfulness exercise from the internet helps me calm down so I don’t look for a quick fix to feel better. When I feel overwhelmed, I take time out to practice it, and it helps bring me back down so I can focus on work, etc. It’ll be okay, just breathe 🙂
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