Hello Elizabeth,

I know you don’t know me, but just three months ago after being with the love of my life for a year and a half we ended it. For the last three months I have been suicidal, depressed, major anxiety, big break downs, a few trips to the ER several therapy sessions and support groups. I still am so heart broken and depressed because I was and am still so in love with a man who really wasn’t who he was. I was just like you driving myself crazy. I have lost 25 pounds since April, and I could not leave him alone. Just last week I decided that if I want to get happy, feel better, and have a better life I have to cut ties entirely. I know you think it is so tough to imagine your life without this man, but you can live without him! YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH! You’re special just the way you are! What you are feeling after this break up isn’t wrong. It is tough to let go of someone who was apart of your every day life, but my recommendation is to lose his number and move on without him. Hope is nice, but why hold on? Sometimes people grow apart and sometimes people set people they love free because of their own personal issues. For your own health and mental state it is better to forget him and surround yourself with people who love you and don’t be so hard on yourself! The break up isn’t all your fault. You have to see both sides and forgive yourself and forgive him. It gets better. And I know it is easier said than done, but how you are feeling now is going to make you stronger later. I promise.

Matt is so awesome with the advice he gives…it’s given me hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel…don’t hinder your health or self esteem because in the end you are worth a lot more than you are probably giving yourself credit for. I too am going through something similar and believe me it has been tough and I’m so introverted that its hard for me to move on because I really don’t have too many friends. ,if you do have friends talk with them and get that support system going. You as we’ll as the rest of us need to love ourselves and remember that before these men we were strong, assertive, independent and happy. I’m still struggling but I have always made it through the struggles and obstacles,life has thrown at me and you can too. You just need to believe in yourself…if you need to talk please contact me anytime. Even if its just to vent

Hi Elizabeth,

In May, two weeks before my 15 year anniversary, the love of my life left me and our five year old daughter for a married woman, who has three kids, and who is now currently pregnant with the love of my life’s baby, he has been with her 4 months and she is 3 1/2 months pregnant. I have anxiety attacks every single day, and have begged for him to come home.

It DOES get easier, i only cried twice yesterday, and I have a great support system of friends and family. I have to see him every day because of our custody arrangement, so every day my heart breaks again. Just do things that make you happy, and you will find yourself smiling a little more every day.

good luck