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Dear Arkaprava:

“she would literally be sad and crying.. she said ‘My love for you goes out and comes in’.. she was depressed and had to see a doctor”-

– she didn’t only lose her loving feelings for you, she was very distressed about it, distressed about the loving feelings coming and going, so much so that she saw a doctor. You asked: “”Is this some psychological condition?”-

– reads like, yes it is. It could be that she disassociates from her feelings and gets very surprised, not understanding herself how that could be. If she suffered in childhood an ongoing situation where she was scared and alone, let’s say her parents were fighting, shouting loudly when she was younger, and she was alone, scared, no one comforting her, she may have disassociated then. It is a protective mechanism that animals have, to remove a scary feeling from awareness because the fear or hurt feels too intense.

anita

Dear Arkaprava:

It may be the reason, if she was afraid for a long time that her mother will die and she didn’t have anyone to comfort her while she was afraid. If she was afraid day in and day out alone with her fear, then yes, it may be the reason she stops having feelings for you and gets distressed over it. There may be other experiences in her childhood that were also scary for her.

anita