Hi all, it’s my first time posting on this forum.
My ex broke up with me about 8 months ago. I won’t go too much into detail about it but it’s due to us quarrelling over communication issues, I was complaining a lot and I guess all that has left him feeling depleted of energy. He was also having problems at work.
I took these 8 months identifying and addressing my issues, working on myself to become a better person. I’m also considering a career change.
Throughout these times I’ve been keeping in contact with my ex. I’ve cried and begged in the first 2 months, he didn’t cave in but bought me a present while on his holiday, which he still hasn’t given it to me. I went no contact for the next month. After the break up he changed his profile picture to something not related to us. He never liked any of my post on social media.
I started to reach out to him slowly after that, initiating contact every 2 weeks. Our conversations were rather neutral, with some positives in between. Last month, things seem to be taking a positive turn. He liked my post about making positive changes on social media, he changed his profile picture to a scenery picture we took while on our holiday. He started to respond more, and we even had sexting sessions. I increased the frequency of our contact and it seems quite alright.
But I got greedy and asked him out. He did not reject, but put it on hold, said he’s busy nowadays, and ignored my text when I suggested another day. I guess he’s not ready to meet me yet. I have this feeling that he still loves me but he needed space and time to think. I feel that things are getting better on the overall, but I still can’t help but to worry about whether there is a second chance for us. I know I’m feeling afraid of getting hurt or rejected again. Why does he not want to meet me? Am I going too fast for him? Is he still confused about us?
On the other hand, sometimes I worry about whether I’m making the right decision trying to get him back. I’m also in a very confused state of mind. What should I do? Should I slow down and reach out to him again after a while? Or should I be honest with him about my feelings and the changes I made, and that I would like to have a second chance?
Sorry for the long story. I feel slightly better after typing this out.