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May 6, 2016 at 7:10 pm #103816vinceParticipant
Hello.I’m new here.Nice to meet you!I bracketed my crush as “(a)” and my girlfriend as “(b)” so that you wont be confused.
So, a few years ago, my crush(a) liked me and she confessed to me. I was reluctant to accept even though i had feelings about her. I had a girlfriend that time too.But then, my girlfriend(B) then broke up with me and i then said to my crush that i liked her too.So, we started dating and stuff.Few weeks passed by, my ex-girlfriend(b) asked if we can be together again. At that time, i had bigger feelings to my girlfriend(B) than my crush(a).So, i said yes and became her boyfriend and i left my crush(a).I felt very guilty that time.I was even called a “player” by her friends. I know that i did something wrong.So, i went to my crush(a) and apologized to her.She was very kind to forgive me.I felt happy that she was still friends.I thought that our “bridge” of friendship would fall and we won’t be friends.Another few months passed by, my crush(a) and I was very close friends and at that time i realized that my girlfriend(b) had been using me.I also still had feelings to my crush(a).I then decided to break up with my girlfriend(b) for a greater good.I then took courage to confess to my crush(a) who now has a boyfriend.She was shocked and thought that I was joking.I convinced her that i was serious.She believed me and just says okay.Not long later, she kept sharing her feelings to me about her boyfriend, she and her boyfriend’s relationship is worsening.My feelings got stronger and i now is more like obsessed.soon after that, she broke up with her bf.One year passed by, she was now dating with my best friend.Since then, i regretted my actions on choosing my girlfriend(b) than my crush(a).I know I am a cruel person but what should i do?May 6, 2016 at 7:44 pm #103821AnonymousGuestDear vincenzz2:
I lost you somewhere at the end. Let me know if I understand correctly: currently you are not in a relationship with (a) or (b). (a) had a boyfriend when you confessed to her that you had strong feelings for her, then broke up with that boyfriend and is now dating your best friend. You are obsessed with (a). ???
anita
May 6, 2016 at 8:17 pm #103830vinceParticipantdear anita, yes that is true but its not really like obsessed. i just think of her all the tine
May 6, 2016 at 8:24 pm #103832AnonymousGuestDear vincenzz2:
After (a) separated from her boyfriend and before she started dating your best friend, how is it that she didn’t get together with you? I thought she was interested…?
anita
May 6, 2016 at 8:25 pm #103833vinceParticipantdear anita,
i think she didn’t have feelings for me anymore that time after what i did.May 6, 2016 at 8:28 pm #103835AnonymousGuestAnd what exactly did you do? Can you restate what you did in one or two sentences?
anita
May 6, 2016 at 8:37 pm #103837ElParticipantDear vincenzz2:
First, you are not a cruel person. You were confused about your feelings. However, every choice you make has a consequence.
I think for you, this has to be a learning lesson. If your crush(B) is with someone else, you do not need to interfere if she is happy. Kind of put her feelings into play, and don’t pursue her. You clearly told her you had feelings for her and her response was “okay”. If that’s her response, then you just need to lay low. Move on from both girls.
There will be another girl out there. You’re thinking about your crush(B) only because you regret your decision. Don’t regret anything though. Use it as a learning lesson and move forward!
Best of luck 🙂
May 6, 2016 at 9:47 pm #103839vinceParticipantdear anita,
by what i did i meant that i left her for a girl and ahe was heartbroken.May 6, 2016 at 9:48 pm #103840vinceParticipantdear el,
thank you for your advice. i wish you all the bestMay 7, 2016 at 7:49 am #103861AnonymousGuestDear vincenzz2:
If I was you, I wouldn’t label myself “a cruel person” as you have in your original post. Such a label is not justified based on what you shared. You left your crush and she was heartbroken. This will happen again: there will be people hurt by your actions and there will be actions by others that will hurt you in the future, no matter how … good you are.
To “cause no harm”- to minimize the hurt you cause and the hurt you experience, pay attention to what you do and be fair to yourself and to others. Do not mislead, be straightforward about your intentions and feelings. When conflicted, when not sure, state that. Communicate honestly and openly. Don’t “confess” everything, be selective as to what you say, and make it honest.
Your crush, she lost her loving feelings for you, so that is the consequence of the interaction between the two of you. I hope you can learn what you can from the experience, figure out what you are responsible for in the interactions between the two of you, and what she is responsible for. Once you figure who is responsible for what, you will gain clarity, I believe, and be able to move on.
Post again, anytime.
anita
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