Dear Nellie:

You asked: “How can feelings disappear like that?”

Here is one way they can disappear: when a child cried, like he has cried, and his father hit him because he cried, abusing him repeatedly, as he shared with you, that makes the child’s feeling of closeness to the parent disappear. Later in life it makes the feeling of closeness with others disappear as well.

What do you think of my answer?

anita

Dear Nellie:

You are welcome. In search for an answer to your question I ask:

1. You wrote, “I made him open to his parents”. How did you do that, make him open to his parents and how did he become open to his father (who abused him as a child)?

2. What were those “small fights” about?

anita