So I am in a bit of a dilemma. I am dating a very lovely, kind, loving guy who is basically Mr Perfect. He’s everything I want on paper.

But, there is always a “But”. I don’t feel a spark or a connection. To cut a long story short, I’ve always been attracted to dickheads, good looking bad boys. My ex was one.

So I meet this guy who is great, first and second dates were great. Then we become intimate and he’s not that experienced so that was a voice at the back of my head.

I also started internally comparing him to all my exes and he just didnt have that edge at all. He’s way too nice. It started playing on my mind do much that soon enough i was becoming distant and was making excuses not to see him.

I decided it wasn’t fair on him and told him that he’s lovely but i wanted to keep my options option. It crushed him and i felt horrible, But i had been in enough crappy relationships that i didnt want to do that to myself again.

He couldnt understand why so i was brutally honest with him. He just couldn’t understand that having that edge in someone is what made me attracted to them. he put me off more by saying that what if you could turn a good boy into a bad one. I was like yea, no.

I went out on a date with another guy who wasnt suitable either. I then went over my head how the first guy i was with was great and should get over myself because there are girls out there who wish they had what i did.

So we started dating again and it was all going well..until he started hinting that he wanted to move in with me once my lease was over. Panic!!! I hastily brushed it off with an off hand comment saying yea see what happens.

Sex got better, we went away together for a weekend. but that niggling feeling just wont go away. I look at him and keep asking whether im attracted to him or not. Im not affectionate with him and that is not who iam.

He has now applied for position at my work and its really pissed me off. I can go on about how i feel but it will take too long. I feel like a bad person for feeling this way. Ive fucked him around once before. He wants to build a future with me which is great and all but im not falling in love with him but he is with me.

part of it maybe that i still have feelings for my ex and i never got closure from that. I just dont know what to do. I was meant to see him tonite but made the excuse that i wasnt feeling well.

I am. VERY. STUCK

I feel no connection, spark, fireworks, nothing. He is attractive i guess maybe. kinda. I think if i met someone else and he had all this guys qualities but gave me that spark then i would have to leave. I would never cheat or disrespect someone.

I feel like he’s the guy that is in the interim while my heart looks for others.Why cant i just be happy with him. I keep telling myself it will get better and it will be great. but its been two months and nada

Anybody else been in this fiasco

Help 🙁