Dear cranberry:

You asked how pathetic is it, that you were hoping he would come back to you: not pathetic at all. It is not pathetic that you still miss him. I do wish one day soon you will no longer feel inferior to anyone because… you are not inferior to anyone.

You wrote that a part of you feels like focusing on healing but another part of you feels that talking to other guys will help you move on. I think maybe you can do both: focus on healing and talk to other guys without getting into a relationship. Talk, get to know guys, ask them questions, listen to them. You will learn, if you ask and listen, that they too struggle with similar struggles to yours.

anita