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January 3, 2015 at 5:00 pm #70151
AnonymousInactiveI had some hard times and some people who wont forgive me for my actions in the past. I don’t talk to these people anymore, yet I still feel constantly guilty and ashamed even after attempts at apologizing and having my apologies rejected. I don’t feel like a person anymore. I don’t know who I am or what I want anymore either. How do I even bounce back?
Please, I need advice on how to leave behind one portion of my life to lead a new one. Its the new year and I don’t want to live like this any longer.
(I have past posts about my situation if you would like to read and respond to those as well, any help is encouraged.)
Thank You
January 3, 2015 at 5:14 pm #70152
CindyParticipantCheyenne,
I was unable to find your previous posts, so I don’t fully understand your situation, but I have recently come to believe that anyone who feels genuinely sorry for their past mistakes deserves forgiveness. We are human beings; we make mistakes. I recently made a big mistake that caused a major upset in my life, but the people who really matter have stuck by me and have reminded me that my mistakes don’t have to define me. I recently read a really powerful quote. It said, “Forget it enough to let it go, but remember it enough so that it doesn’t happen again.” You’re right…it’s a new year, and it’s time for a fresh start. You have tried to apologize for your mistake…that’s all you can do. Whether or not someone wants to accept it is their business. You cannot control other people’s actions, only your own. If you truly regret your mistake, make a vow to never repeat it, and do all you can to forgive yourself. Trust me…I know this is easier said than done. But every day is a new opportunity to turn your life around, to become a better person, and to let go of the past. Another great quote: “When the past comes calling, send it straight to voicemail. It has nothing new to say.” Best wishes to you, my fellow human being and mistake-maker. We are works in progress…may we only get better with time.
January 3, 2015 at 5:25 pm #70153
AnonymousInactiveThank you for replying!
January 5, 2015 at 5:32 pm #70554
ztwilliamsParticipantHi Cheyenne,
Cindy gives very good advice and you are in good company, my friend. A lot of us struggle with this and beat ourselves up over it. You can’t control how others feel, only yourself. Forgive yourself. Accept those that aren’t but don’t close those doors completely. Time is a good healer and you might find that in time, people may come around. Learn from your mistakes and walk your new journey.
Light and love,
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