Dear Daniela:

You wrote: “Yesterday…we had a short talk, he was cold (usually he is nothing like that). I felt awful and extremely sad. I can stop feeling that is my fault… I feel guilty of been jealous and make him angry”-

He acted cold, angry and you reacted feeling guilty, as if you did something wrong. Is it the usual case for you: if someone is angry at you, you automatically react by feeling guilty, feeling that you did something wrong to bring abut the person’s anger?

If that is the case, then your behavior will be about placating angry people no matter what they are angry about and not about doing what is right for you.

anita