Dear Kris:

Reads to me that she’s depressed (“she doesn’t enjoy anything in life anymore“), and that being depressed, she naturally fell out of love with you.

“MY GOD, was it a good kiss. She pulled away and said she has butterflies but also wants to cry at the same time (WTF does that mean? Is it a good thing?)”- I think that it’s a good thing that she had butterflies: it means that her depression wasn’t deep enough to render her butterflies incapacitated. On the other hand, she was still depressed and therefore, she felt like crying.

“Before she got in her car, she looks me dead in the eyes and says ‘I can’t wait to feel better again.” So, we are for sure meeting up at the start of September when she moves back here for school but the thing is she most likely won’t be better by then… what do you guys think about this whole situation?“- she could be better by September if she gets professional help, quality therapy perhaps.

anita

It sounds like you are supportive of her and her struggles, and that is all anyone can really ask for in a relationship. However, she knows she’s not in a good place and has taken the initiative to realize that it may have affected your relationship on a romantic level, along with actively not keeping the ‘spark’ there.

All you can do now is let her know you’re there for her and support her. It will work out the way it should, no matter how much you want to push it to go the way you would like.