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  • October 8, 2017 at 7:49 am #172155
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    Hi fellow wanderers, does anyone want to share with me a good meditation for accepting inevietable change?

    I understand that most things are workable, but I’m stuck in a perpetual “Why can stuff not be like it was three years ago/ before Facebook / the good old times / in my childhood”. Things have been bad, and I expect them to get worse soon. I believe the way I handle it now, will determine when it will get better. Therefore I need help to passively accept some things having changed, some turned to the worse, and some things will never be (as good) as they were. I need to gently coax myself into the future and not letting the fear of the upcoming hardships and longing for the past to stop me from acting in a good way.

    I know of mindfulness and the utmost basics for guided meditation.

    October 9, 2017 at 4:39 am #172241
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    Dear Seeker:

    I am not familiar with an existing guided meditation about accepting inevitable changes. I haven’t listened to guided meditations for a long, long time. I know that there are many available online, lots and lots.

    You wrote that you need help accepting changes, manage fear of upcoming hardships and that you are “stuck in a perpetual ‘Why can stuff not be like it was… the good old times / in my childhood'”.

    It is my experience that people who had tough childhoods, childhoods filled with suffering, remember their past in the most nostalgic ways, filtering out the negatives and remembering the positives in a magnified, almost magical way. This is because a child needs comfort and if there is none in his reality, he makes believe there is. When grown, the adult still makes believe…

    I do not know how tough your childhood was, maybe it wasn’t. But certainly it wasn’t all good, not as good as you remember.

    The meditation (quiet contemplation, entertaining thoughts when calm, undistracted) I am suggesting is taking a flashlight, figuratively, and moving it from where it has been pointing to and pointing it elsewhere, here and there and there, to not so good times. Then view the whole picture. This way your focus expands to the whole.

    If you meditate on that, expanding your nostalgic view of your childhood and past, you will see that you already survived hardship and you are capable of surviving more. Maybe even thriving, that is learning from hardship and living a better life as a result of learning, accepting what you cannot change and change what you can change.

    anita

     

     

    October 9, 2017 at 5:30 am #172251
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    Hello Anita, thank you for answering.

    I believe the flashlight meditation would work, because whilst I do remember and recognise my childhood to be a total shitshow, I’m absurdedly nostalgic about a few good events and times from after I moved from home, and I need to see the whole. I also need to see that I have so far survived the worst day of my life, so I think this is a good meditation to try.

    Thank you again for your suggestion 🙂

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    October 9, 2017 at 6:02 am #172261
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    Dear Seeker:

    And you gave it a name: The Flashlight Meditation. I like the name. You are welcome.

    anita

     

     

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