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  • #47853
    Hee
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    Hello,

    I’m going to become an outlier for myself and state something totally out of my regular commenting spectrum. From what I’ve read, it seems that you’ve done your homework, and have researched on various ground on which option suits you best. Even though laying out your choices and thinking about picking which one you’d like to choose, like as if someone were to bring you several grand dishes and you get to choose which food you like to eat, which is perfectly fine… but I think the question is… what food you want to eat… tune out your fears and negative what ifs… this is an important part of your life, and it would define your future. Know what drives you and find your core and work towards it or to stick to a path that’s closest to it. Everything else would stay: if it’s meant to be then it’s meant to be… if not then maybe it’s not… Sometimes life’s a science… based on trails and failures…. when it’s finally perfect, then something new pops up….. Just because you’re scared of something doesn’t necessarily mean that it won’t happen… So trust yourself, and make the right decision πŸ™‚

    #47858
    Cyd
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    Hi K,

    I’m a current college student and have been where you are. It is very stressful. Generally speaking, in your first year at most universities you take general education courses also known as prerequisites. These classes are not classes for your major but still matter. With that being said, you have nothing to lose by going to your boyfriend’s university for the first year. People go to one college for a couple years and end up transferring for their major all the time. I also understand that your relationship really matters to you. This seems to be a major compromise for you that I hope your boyfriend will appreciate. Relationships are all about compromise. If each of you can learn to support each other and push each other to go out there and accomplish your dreams then you all have conquered what most mature couples struggle with. Spend that first year with him as his university until you see where you want to be. No worries. Keep pressing πŸ™‚

    #47893
    K
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    Thanks to both of you for the replies! Hee, I like the way you used the dishes of food as a metaphor for choices, and it definitely helps to look at it that way, the only problem is most of the time I don’t even know what I want myself! πŸ˜› And you’re right in saying that if it’s meant to be, it will be. I’d like to be able to make a decision based on what I want but the things I want seem to be contradicting each other right now. Cyd, it’s comforting to know someone else has been where I am! And I think you’re right in saying I would have nothing to lose in going to my boyfriend’s college for my first year and seeing where it goes from there. The thing is, I want to be a game warden and I love wildlife, but art has also always been one of my passions. The college that’s about 2 hours away is well-known for their environmental/wildlife programs, but it doesn’t have anything for art. My boyfriend’s college has a good art program, but minimal environmental/wildlife programs (other than a nature tourism minor). If I go to his for the first year, I’d be majoring in art. Who knows where I’ll be at the end of my first year, but if I still wanted to follow the game warden career path, I could transfer over to the other one. Who knows, maybe I’ll change my mind and get hooked on the art program and not want to transfer anyways? Or maybe I’ll go for two years and then transfer over? Besides, like you said, in the first year it’s mostly prerequisite classes. I won’t even be learning a lot that has to do with my major until sophomore or junior year anyways, right? So since I’m paying for it all myself, it actually would make sense to go the first year or two to the less expensive college where my boyfriend happens to go. Not only would it be saving me money, it’d be giving me the opportunity to experience a major in art and a major in wildlife. I had been considering this before your reply, but knowing that someone else thinks it’s a potentially good idea is pretty encouraging and relieving to know, so thank you πŸ™‚ I might just decide on doing just that.

    #47919
    Ashleah
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    Sort of recent college grad here. -waves- I made my decision on where to go to college based on which one in the “cheaper options” made me feel most at home. Looking back, I’m glad I made the decision based on those things. Now, I will say, don’t solely make that decision based on a guy, though I think you already know this. I almost decided where I wanted to go to graduate school based on a guy, and we broke it off only two months after I visited that school. I’m thankful that we broke it off as early as we did, or my decision might have been different.

    Also, you mentioned the nature tourism minor at his school…. I’m not sure if this is along the lines with your interest, but is it possible departments like biology or environmental sciences have classes that you might be interested in? Maybe do a broad minor or major like that, but do special electives in things you’re interested in? Often times, you can have a really broad department, like biology, but there are a ton of classes there that really focus on particular interests. Check our their course catalog and see what classes sound most interesting. Good luck. πŸ™‚

    #47975
    K
    Participant

    Ashleah- good thing you guys did break it off early on, that’s another worry of mine; that we’ll break up right before graduation after I’ve decided to go and if I end up deciding to go to the same place as him, it’d probably be awkward and I wouldn’t want to be there as much. Not that we’re planning on breaking up anytime soon, but things happen.
    His school does have biology-related majors and environmental science. I took an environmental class in high school and loved it; the only problem is, the program at his school mentions quite a bit of chemistry and chemistry was definitely not my strong suit in high school, which is why I’m scared it’ll be too difficult if I major in environmental science at his school (even if I try to choose as many non-chemistry related electives as I can…it seems to be one of those base/prerequisite classes). Now, I know if I worked hard enough I could still get through the chemistry part, but I’m just worried it’ll be as torturous (okay maybe I’m overexaggerating when I say “torturous” but you know what I mean haha) as the class I took in high school. I’ll definitely take a closer look at their course catalog though and see what I can work with. Thanks! πŸ™‚

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