Dear TJ:

It is a  shame  that your father supports strangers in their music endeavors but not his son. It doesn’t surprise me though because I have witnessed parents  being  kind to strangers but  not to their own children.

Writing  music, singing, creating  music and  making a living doing that,  it  is  a tough endeavor, tough business.

If  I was you, I would separate the  two: father and  music. He is not helping you. You are on your own. I would   move out when it  becomes  possible and have  nothing to do  with him for a while, a few years at least. Something about separating from your father will allow you to move  on by yourself as an independent person and  a self determined  musician.

anita

Dear TJ:

Good  idea to  cut ties.

“My parents don’t  even see  that  I’m depressed. I thought going to  a  gastroenterologist and  having an endoscopy would  get them to see, but they’re not getting it“.

No wonder your parents/ your father doesn’t get your music. He doesn’t see  (and hear) you, your depression or your music. When a child/ adult child is not seen or heard  by parents, it kills the  child’s  motivation to create/ to be seen and  heard, so no wonder you didn’t write music in two years, played only one show and  you wrote, “I can’t bring myself to write or create”.

In the context of living with your parents, you are  not  likely at all to  become  motivated to create.

It takes motivation and talent and  lots of practice, persistent ongoing practice. It  will  not be easy away from your parents, but quite impossible living with them.

I understand  your financial considerations regarding  moving. Post again anytime.

anita