Dear Anastasia:

1. Reads to me, from your sharing, that he is currently still interested in you and in a relationship with you.

2. It is not realistic on your part to expect his feelings and behavior to be always the same, to not change. Humans do not operate in such sameness, always the same. Even your anxiety, as persistent as it is, sometimes takes a break and you feel calm, for a moment or an evening… correct?

3. If this relationship lasts for your lifetime, assuming this is your hope, then you are not enjoying it being as worried as you are. So let’s say at 85, sitting with him in the back porch of some old house, on a reclining chair, you post on tiny buddha: this relationship, seems like it did last a lifetime but I was so anxious for all these decades that I didn’t enjoy it!

Anxiety is raining on your parade: it does nothing at all to help in any way, shape or form. It only damages.

4. Let’s say this relationship ends, let’s say he is no longer interested- your greatest fear at this point- what then? What happens then?

Waiting for your reply to #4.

anita