I wish I could get some insight from people on this. I get the feeling both of these attempts at getting to know someone are slipping away and I don’t know what to do. I’m just frustrated. Maybe I should just let it go.

Thanks Jasmine,

When I just let things happen naturally, there is such better flow to things. I think that I have found two women that are interested enough in me, that they want to develop things slowly. The second woman and I had a date today. I know she cares about me too and said flat out that she is attracted to me. I have to just relax and realize that I could build something special with one of them. My only problem is not wanting to hurt one of them if something finally grows to the point with one of them that I must make a decision to stop going out with one of them.

I’m working on just focusing on other things besides them.

I’m probably going to start looking to at dating some other women again. The second woman I have been dating, I’m so unsure of, I just don’t know if it’s worth the trouble anymore. We have talked for a long time. She has told me so much about her life. She has shared the good and the bad that has happened to her. Although sex hasn’t come into play, we have been physical. I know she wants to take things slow, but after about three months of knowing her and so much about her, shouldn’t I be able to know roughly where I stand in her life?

We talk, and flirt, and have fun when we are together. I don’t pressure her at all but I did ask her where I stand with her in a text, yesterday evening, and she hasn’t responded to it. I don’t know if I am just an occasional distraction for her.
The man she broke her engagement off with, was gone a lot on the road, and she was by herself a lot, and then with her child. She is raising her daughter by herself. I know that she is a really strong woman, and she has done so much on her own. She isn’t very sentimental so I don’t know how she is feeling.

Maybe jeena is right. Why am I waiting on women who leave me hanging? I have been thinking about putting my dating profile up again. I was keeping it off as a courteously to the two women I was interested in. One is a non factor now. The other one leaves me guessing. You don’t know what to think. I don’t know if she is just cautious after what happened to her, and really wants to develop things slowly.

Thanks Pooch,
I’m starting to think that is the case too. I’m just a little conflicted because she did respond and I am going to type what she wrote.
Also, I was mistaken on the timeline. I first got a hold of her at the end of July so it’s about two months. It just feels longer and I’m probably a little eager.

“I’m not sure what you mean by ” where you stand”. I went online to meet someone I can blend with and hopefully lead to something long term. I can’t say for certain this early on. I had said I need to move slow and take time.”

I know she is being straightforward about this. She is being thoughtful about it and not flighty. It’s been a short time and maybe I should be more patient, but would it be a bad thing if I put my profile up again? She told me hers is still up and she checks it. Her photos are not on there so supposedly guys don’t check them out as much.

I have told her flat that I like her and that what to get to know her better. She has shown that she wants to be close to me but doesn’t say how much I might or might not interest her. I thought that I maybe should hold back a little but it’s not a game to me.
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Thanks Cat Dancing,

I appreciate multiple views on this and I read any response I get. Sometimes you can look within and find answers, and other times, you need different perspectives. I am thoughtful about how I treat her because the same thing happened to me, and I would be the same to anyone.
I don’t want to be serious all the time and I do want to have fun with this. I just feel like I have to say this to her. I guess I want to let her know that, while she is who I would most like to get to know, I want to keep my options open too. Is just saying what my intentions are too much or should I give a clear picture of what I am thinking, and let the pieces fall where they may?