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  • #125665
    Miracle88
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    Hello,
    I have struggled for the last 10 years from so many difficulties. I went through so many fallout with relationships, I gained nearly 35 lbs and for some reason battled years of food addiction, so I could never completely go back to my high school weight. In 2006-2007, I entered college with such a vibrant spirit. I was young, excited and was looking forward to the future. Over the years I have faced more hardships. I have become unemployed multiple times. I struggled through jobs that were not the correct fit for me. I had severe anxiety and depression and other health issues and a lot of lonely periods. My life has been just juggling problems. My question to you all is how do we battle the hardships and lonely periods?

    I looking for jobs now, but I still struggle with friendships and relationships.

    I am looking for how we face hard periods in the times of despair. How do we deal with the uncertainty of life? 10 years ago I was just a young 18 year old with a little knowledge of the world. At 28, I see the world through more knowledge.

    I appreciate your input.

    Good Day,
    Miracle88

    #125668
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Miracle88:

    How do we deal with the uncertainty in life, you asked. You have the answer right there: “I see the world through more knowledge”-

    It is knowledge, the knowledge that counts. Not just any knowledge. What knowledge were you referring to?

    anita

    #125737
    Miracle88
    Participant

    Hello Anita,
    I was speaking of the the day to day problems and how to come through them.

    #125743
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Miracle88:

    I have two plans regarding my lifetime anxiety:

    1. The day to day, one day at a time management.

    2. The long term healing. Been healing starting 2011.

    Did you attend competent psychotherapy for the day-today management as well as the long term healing from your anxiety?

    anita

    #125921
    Miracle88
    Participant

    Hi Anita,
    I have gone to counseling but still suffer. I am unemployed and am still single…so that doesn’t help the situation.

    #125925
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Miracle88:

    You went through lots of relationship and employment difficulties since you were 18, ten years ago, that is, all your adult life so far. How was your childhood like?

    anita

    #126091
    Miracle88
    Participant

    My childhood was interesting. I had great family support. However growing up in an Indian Society I felt ostracized by what people would say in judgement. I was constantly judged and sized up. I felt that I was never good enough from the indian perspective. I feel that growing up between two cultures was very challenging.

    #126094
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Miracle88:

    As a child, how were you ostracized by people outside your family- in school? Playground?

    How did your “great family support”- help you against this ostracizing?

    anita

    #126292
    Miracle88
    Participant

    I was bullied in schools. I didn’t have a lot of consistent friendships. I felt lost in this world. I felt very sad all the time. I terrible anxiety and depression.

    #126294
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Miracle88:

    Would you like to share more about it?

    anita

    #126311
    Miracle88
    Participant

    Putting 18 years in writing is pretty difficult. However, I can say growing in the culture clash was very challenging for me. I felt like I didn’t fit in either society. Always conflicted between two worlds.

    #126328
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Miracle88:

    In a previous post you wrote: “growing up in an Indian Society I felt ostracized by what people would say in judgement. I was constantly judged and sized up.”- what were you ostracized/ judged and sized up for?

    “.. I feel that growing up between two cultures was very challenging.”- what two cultures?

    anita

    #126425
    Rebecca
    Participant

    Hi there. I recommend reading the book “When Things Fall Apart” by Pema Chodron. She has a lot of wisdom and advice on embracing life’s chaos. It was actually recommended to me by my therapist. Pema Chodron is an amazing inspiration.

    #126501
    Miracle88
    Participant

    Rebecca- Thank you! I will read this one.
    Anita- Indian and American cultures

    #126529
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Miracle88:

    It could be very helpful to you if a person of the Indian and American culture, with that specific experience, and who has gained wisdom, would reply to you.

    I re-read your posts on this thread. You wrote: ” I felt ostracized by what people would say in judgement. I was constantly judged and sized up. I felt that I was never good enough.”

    I do have a lot of experience, unfortunately, with being ostracized and negatively judged. I too felt like I was never good enough. And I too, had trouble with employment and relationships through my adulthood.

    I have found out that being negatively judged, criticized and put down by others is a very common experience for many children. As we are ostracized and judged as children, we begin to ostracize and judge ourselves. There is a voice in our heads doing what others have done to us.

    The bullies who bullied you in school- they have a mental representative who continues their work in your brain. I call it the “inner bully.” Its common term is the “inner critic”.

    There are ways to deal, manage and shrink that “inner bully.” It starts with noticing what it is that it tells you. In Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), you learn to challenge it for truth- is what it says true or false? By practicing Mindfulness you learn to notice the thoughts (what the inner critic says) and the distress that accompanies these thoughts, and you learn to calm yourself, to … regulate your emotions, to no longer be taken by them in a storm, but to be in control as much as is possible for you.

    Hope you post again.

    anita

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