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July 7, 2017 at 6:13 am #156776
Marge
ParticipantHello Victoria,
I know that a difficult workplace drain our energy away, but as we all have bills to pay sometimes it isn’t so simple to get rid of this situation.
It seems to me that your coworker is a compulsive, maybe pathological liar, so I imagine there’s no much you can do about it. It is a problem inside her and she probably knows you know she’s lying.
At the same time, it’s pretty common to have bosses who won’t stand by you or who won’t get engage in resolving team issues. So it is a dead end and I assume you don’t have a great career path inside this company, especially if it’s a small family business.
As you don’t need to stick to it for long (4 months) all I can think of is you try to change your mindset. You can’t change people around you, only yourself. Try to see this as an opportunity to improve your resilience and start looking for other jobs (maybe you find something you like sooner than expected).
I guess not so many people would say that, but my suggestion is don’t work hard. Stick to the essentials, doesn’t embrace a cause or try your best to solve problems and etc. Do just what you’re told to, literally just the essential. You need to hang in there for 4 months and you’re not trying to get promoted (I imagine you have higher dreams) so try to save yourself all psychological energy you can.
Meditation helps a lot in those times you feel like you’re going to explode or breakdown. I suggest you to try.
And when you’re in non-working hours enjoy your life, do what you love and do a conscious effort to not think about work.
I’m certain you’re capable of going through this and you are going to learn a lot from this experience. Rough times makes us stronger.
Wish all luck and best!
Keep me posted.
Marge
July 7, 2017 at 9:03 am #156834Anonymous
GuestDear Victoria:
You wrote: “the bosses just keep saying ‘it’s between you two’ and will stay out of it-
you disagree with their attitude and policy and this is not the last time you will disagree with an employer’s attitudes and policies, even in a big, organized company or agency.
What you do, as an employee, here and anywhere you work, for as long as you choose to be an employee, is to follow the employer’s instructions, as long as the instructions are not illegal or clearly unethical. In this case, they clearly instructed you to leave them out of any concerns you have about your co-worker. So do so. Don’t address any concerns with them.
You can list her lies, or potential lies, on a paper, or a Word document on the computer, listing dates and times of what she said. If the employers approach you in the future about anything she said, then look at your document and respond then.
anita
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