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  • July 8, 2018 at 9:42 am #215891
    Anonymous
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    Dear Tara5000:

    My experience with leaving “the past in the past” is nothing I used to think it would be like. I used to think that it was possible to do so by an act of will, following a decision. Not so. The past gets reactivated in our brain in the present. It takes a long healing process to slowly re-wire the brain, that is, insert new core beliefs in there so to change the mapping of the brain.

    To have my first healthy relationship it took couple psychotherapy to start. My therapist at the time taught me/ us interpersonal skills. It was the psychoeducation part of therapy. He also taught me emotional regulations skills: I learned, over time, to endure emotional distress without reacting any which way so to relieve it. I learned to choose my behavior.

    It took a whole lot more but these two items are big.

    anita

    July 8, 2018 at 11:25 am #215899
    Tara5000
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    Thank you Anita!

    I am in therapy now and she’ll help me with this.

    I am also working on detachment and it’s really freeing me from the thought that I need to do everything for everyone. It’s helping my children mature, my employees grow and me to have more time for myself.

    July 9, 2018 at 4:44 am #215959
    Anonymous
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    Dear Tara5000:

    You are welcome. I am glad you are attending therapy and hope to read more from you.

    anita

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