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  • July 7, 2015 at 3:06 pm #79470
    Anonymous
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    Dear Karlo:
    Thank you for your enthusiastic post. Many good suggestions: facing reality; not denying it, setting goals and working on achieving them, expecting/ accepting failing and keep trying, not fighting your thoughts but accepting them, practicing good diet and exercise- all good stuff. Question to you: when you feel very low, depressed, discouraged- what do you do?
    anita

    July 8, 2015 at 4:47 am #79493
    Karlo
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    That’s a good question!
    I’m trying to accept situation I’m in, living in that moment of ‘hell’ gives me the power to move on because I haven’t achieved my final goals and dreams yet. I don’t know how to explain it better.
    When you are feeling discouraged and low, set yourself a goal to overcome that moment.(And no, you can’t achieve that goal within minutes or hours, you have to give yourself time because that moment can last for a couple of months or even years based on the situation you’re in)

    Small advice: After accepting the situation you’re in, almost immediately your body will crave for bad habits like eating unhealthy, smoking, etc… (even if you had quit smoking 6 months ago) why? Because your body is returning to the point when you have been in the ‘bubble of comfort’.
    Just burst that bubble, and give yourself a credit for developed self-discipline and move on.

    Thank you for a good question Anita and I’m glad that at least someone has read this post.
    Anyone should feel free to ask more questions anytime!

    With kindness,
    Karlo

    July 8, 2015 at 6:59 am #79498
    Anonymous
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    Dear karlo:
    Thank you for your answer. What you are saying is to ACCEPT the situation I am living in, setting a goal, avoiding bad habits, self discipline.

    You remind me a bit of how I was only a short time ago, and I am 54… I believed I had the answers and I believed I could TEACH others – teach them not only what the answers are but what their questions should be. And although I have failed to change a single person’s life, although I failed to promote a single person’s well being (beyond, MAYBE, the moment, at times, maybe) I continued trying to FIX people over and over again. It is only recently that I found out how LITTLE I can do for another. It amazes me how much I invested and how little I achieved. Interestingly, the whole time I tried to fix others, I was not able to fix myself…

    Do you have any thoughts or feelings about my input here? Can you relate at all?
    anita

    July 8, 2015 at 12:32 pm #79515
    Karlo
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    At this point I lack life experience and I apologize for the short answer.
    My opinion is that one of the hardest things in life to achieve is to change yourself the way you want, it is easier to help someone else and hide behind the mask.

    With kindness,
    Karlo

    July 8, 2015 at 1:51 pm #79521
    Anonymous
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    Dear Karlo:
    I think it is easier to try and help another because all it takes is an intellectual exercise in analyzing another’s life, another’s problems- it takes a short time out of my life to do so. But to change my own life- it takes ongoing work, moment by moment, at different times, different feelings. No break from one own’s life … except when focusing momentarily on another’s, on fixing another’s- a delusion and the payoff is: hey, I got a break from my own life and imagine I am making a difference in another’s.
    anita

    July 10, 2015 at 5:26 am #79608
    Kath
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    Here’s an advice my therapist gave me to build a positive self-image, and I think it works pretty well:
    Carry dried peas (or sth. of a similar size) in one of your pockets. Whenever you have done something well, take one of the peas and put it in a different pocket. Look at the peas from this pocket at the end of the day and review what you did.
    To do something well does not mean you have to do something extraordinary: It can be as little as getting up in time, if you have problems with that. Or making a healthy breakfast for yourself. Or finally sending that stupid mail you should have send a week ago. Or conquering a panic attack. Or calling a friend. Or being nice to someone/ having a nice little chat after which you feel good…

    This technique teaches you that you are able to shape your world and your feelings in small ways, it makes you feel more powerful and it trains the positive voice instead of your inner critic who is trying to put you down all the time.

    Try it for a few days and let me know how it works out!

    July 10, 2015 at 10:03 am #79615
    Karlo
    Participant

    Hi Kath,
    Thank you for the advice, I should try that!

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