Hey Mnml,

It is nice to hear an update. From your last thread, you were looking of a new job or career….. It appears you are on your way 🙂

Firstly, lets take the attention from the cause of the issue, and refocus on what you can do at the moment. Stewing in things outside your control is the answer to find depression and anxiety. So this process sounds nice on paper, but because you are ‘doing’ something about it, your mind will not be happy as it means change from the known to the unknown. The unknown is already your reality, but your mind is not accepting yet. That’s completely normal 🙂 We all crave safety and security.

When you visualise a young guy, sitting at an interview with little skill, what would be the reason a business would pick him over other candidates? My suggestion would be attitude. Keen as mustard to dive in, and enjoy the ride. If your heart is not engaged, you may as well have a sticky note on your forehead when you go into the interview.

Whilst the process for finding a job will continue to occur, and eventually acceptance into a new role, why not find that spark again, and earn a few dollars along the way.

Begin your IT business – Find some small SO/HO businesses that can not afford a full IT staff and offer to sit in for the day at an agreed rate. Fix things up a bit, make a list of tasks they may need to address in the future. Alternatively, you can try the Home PC client, however be prepared to have many cups of tea, and some great conversations 🙂

Underlying what I am suggesting is to find that spark of helping people again. This is a massive attitude top up full of joy and happiness. You are not offering an ongoing commitment, but a helping hand to those who are doing their best out there. You will find very quickly that a few dollars will be earned, and a freedom of your own IT expression will be released. You have everything you need to do this already…. So the only risk is deciding wether to really put yourself out there, and test your skills.

I hope this helps mate 🙂

Best

Evan

Hey Mnml,

http://markmanson.net/life-purpose

Interesting questions to ponder…..

Cheers

Evan

Dear Mnml,

Let me start by saying I absolutely can relate to what you are going through right now! I have been out of work since March 11th and like you, am struggling not just in finding a job, but in trying to understand “why?” I have all the skills and experience required for the positions I’m seeking…I know there are plenty of jobs out there so why am I still where I am? Unlike you, I get very few calls for interviews despite an impeccable resume and even the few I have had end up in not just rejections but often no return calls after. I literally have to send out emails or make calls just to hear “Sorry, we have filled that position already.” My last interview actually called to tell me they changed from full time to part time then called to tell me they have decided to hold off hiring until mid July. Needless to say, I have spent many nights this past month crying (sobbing rather) trying to figure out what I’ve done so wrong to have to go through this. I’ve tried positive affirmations, I’ve prayed, I’ve begged yet I’m still left to pack up my things to move in with my son because I can’t afford my rent. Now, I know this is in no way what you are looking to hear. I think you, like many if us, are looking for answers. Rather hope. After all, you said you KNOW you are confident in your interviews. You KNOW you are doing what you should be doing. Just like I know. However, this isn’t the first time I’ve gone through this and the last 9 months have been by far the hardest of my life with these past few months being the biggest rock bottom I’ve ever endured. So what do I do now? I have learned to “accept.” Meaning, I’m not giving up…I’m still disappointed….every morning is a struggle and I am still fighting the depression but now that hopeless feeling I get lasts only a short time. I have to believe there is a reason for all of this. Just as I believe there is a reason you are going through it. I know its easier said than done, but if you try to focus on that rather than the negative aspect of rejections or nt finding a job it will continue to drain your spirit.
As far as what Evan Cox has said…I’m wondering if perhaps he means that you may want to consider taking a new direction? Perhaps looking for something different? Today, my son called to cheer me up as he always does and even though he has different beliefs than myself, he said something to me that made me think harder about “fate.” He said “Mom, maybe you just aren’t supposed to work right now. Maybe you are needed for something else?” And, my time off these past few months I have been able to help them with their new baby. Now, I’ll be living with them temporarily. So perhaps he’s right. And right now, that’s all I have to holD on to. So, try to remind yourself of that as often as possible. Take time to think about what the Universe or God or whatever source you believe in, is trying to tell you. Read the article that Evan posted and try to search deep inside yourself for possibly a new path that you may be being guided toward. You might be amazed.

Hi mnml,
Things will definitely get better. wishing you the best!
And the rest of you who replied, thank you for the wonderful advice. It helped a lot!