Dear Arin:

You wrote that it is “difficult to communicate” with your boyfriend because of the language barrier and the two of you having different interests. But there are a few things that he did communicate to you clearly:

(1) “He always play victim“- people play victims in every country, every language, it’s a way to unfairly control another person, and that’s what he does, how he operates.

(2) “He .. twists what I said“- he twists what you say to fit his agenda, right? This too is done in every country and in every language. It is crazy-making when people twist what you say, isn’t it?

(3) “I can’t deal with his sarcastic comments… said everything to make me feel really bad. He apologizes sarcastically and doesn’t want to try to understand what I said“- it’s miserable to live with someone who doesn’t even try to understand you, then attacks you with sarcasm and intentionally tries to make you feel bad. It is like living with an enemy, not a friend (or a lover), isn’t it?

“what should I do?“- I am thinking that you should leave him. You live with him: if you leave him, will you need to be the one to move out, and do you have anywhere to move to?

anita

He doesn’t sound like he values you , value yourself.