Dear Greg:

I will be able to reply to you when I am back to the computer in about 14 hours from now.

anita

Dear Greg:

You shared that you have a plan: (a) tell your parents that you will be going to another city for sight seeing, (b) go to a city where you have no friends, (c) once in that city, immediately check into a hotel for one night, (d) place your belongings in the room, (e) eat, (f) go to a shopping mall and purchase a bra, denim long jeans, crop hoodie- a very short top, revealing the belly, and a hair wig, (g) take your purchases to the hotel and dress there, with the purpose of appearing like a girl: wearing a bra, covering your hairy legs with the long jeans, covering much of your face with a face mask, putting on the hoodie and exposing your belly button, “so I’ll look like a girl”, (h) go back to the shopping mall and walk around, not talking to anyone so to not reveal your male voice and use the handicap toilet which is multi-gender, (i) return to the hotel for the night. (j) the next day, throw away your purchases and return home.

You wrote about your emotional motivation behind the plan: “I’ll wear the crop hoodie as I want to experience what it feels like to have my belly button being seen in public. I feel pleasure in that… I’m only planning to walk around shopping mall when I dress up, to feel my pleasure“-

– You imagine that you will feel pleasure to be seen by strangers, to be seen as a girl with an exposed belly button.

Before I attempt to answer your questions, I ask: is the pleasure you anticipate- a sexual pleasure?

anita

Dear Greg:

You are welcome.

“Do u think what I’m planning here is wrong?.. Will I be guilty if I do this?”-

– the part of you dressing like a girl is not wrong. If you dressed like a girl privately, without anyone seeing you- that wouldn’t be wrong.

If you dressed like a woman in a club situation where all the people in the club are there because they want and expect to see men dressed as women- that wouldn’t be wrong either.

What is wrong about your plan is that .. you plan to deceive people into thinking that you are a woman, and receive sexual pleasure from that deception. If you follow that plan, you will be guilty of deception and taking advantage of people visiting the mall, people who did not come to the mall to be deceived, or to be used for your sexual pleasure.

“Is it safe for me to do this?”- no, it is not. There has been unfortunately lots of violence, all over the world,  against gays, transgenders and other sexual minorities. You can google and find information and  the history of this unfortunate reality.

anita