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Is restoration possible with a selfish, emotional abuser?

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  • February 23, 2017 at 8:11 pm #129133
    XenopusTex
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    Two words: Hell no.

    Complaining about winterizing the place while you were dealing with that stuff is just… um… err… um… Really, he couldn’t “winterize” by himself? Unless we’re talking an ag operation or similar, he should have been able to “winterize” by himself. Even if it was something like an ag operation, couldn’t get neighbors to help due to the situation (due to a**hole issues??)? I’m just without words. Maybe it’s a North Dakota thing, I don’t know, but sheesh.

    I am no psychologist, but I’m guessing that on that trip you saw the harsh reality of life. You saw somebody at the “end of the road” and compared yourself to them/saw yourself in that position. Then thought about all of the bulls*** that your husband was giving you.

    Hmmm, preferring video games over you/kids? Don’t get me wrong, video games can be fun (I play a few at times), they aren’t really a good substitute for interactions with people.

    February 23, 2017 at 8:23 pm #129139
    Anonymous
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    Dear girlmom1115:

    You lost your loving feelings for him and you feel numb and indifferent. You want to know if restoration of those loving feelings is possible. I don’t know, of course. Best if you allow yourself to feel what you feel. If you no longer love him, let it be.

    I think that it is likely that you are emotionally attached to him even though you feel indifferent toward him. I think that you are likely feel that attachment if and when a very stressful life situation takes place in your life, if, for example, he gets sick or if a separation is really in the making.

    For now, you are disheartened. You’ve been alone for too long, unloved for way too long and during critical times in your life.

    Do post again, anytime. Maybe if you keep posting with your thoughts and feelings, a kind of a journal, maybe, things will become clear over time.

    anita

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