Adrian, thank you for giving me a little insight to what was going on in your relationship.  It is helpful to hear similar stories and relate to them so easily.  Lately I have just been getting the feeling that nothing is enough.  There is always a fault somewhere and nothing I do will be able to make this person happy.  I think coming to this realization will be good for me.  I laughed at your story of parking the car because it didn’t matter where we went there was always something said about how and where I parked.  I remember when I first met her we parked along a river and her friends owned a home on the other side of it.  When we were at the friends house she kept mentioning the way I had parked the night before was not the best place for that campsite.  Who cares you know?  There was the time we were in public and I tossed a tool in the back of her truck and she yelled, “don’t throw that at me!”  I tossed it in the back, not even in her direction.  I became nervous and scared of what people around us would think I was doing.  It made me nervous and I just got in my truck and left.  Just rereading your stories makes me exhausted and i feel the same when I reread mine.  She had come home and saw me on the couch with the dogs just being comfortable and immediately started getting angry at me for “not being productive.”  She kept going on and on in anger.  She walked to the back bedroom and saw that I had folded all of the laundry.  She came out and said, “why didn’t you say anything, thank you.”  I guess I just wanted to see how angry she was actually going to get over nothing.  She never asked me to do that, I guess it was just something that I was supposed to.  Thanks again Adrian for taking the time to see the commonalities in our stories.  It helps to know that you are doing well and was able to remove yourself from the anger and control.