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  • #84094
    Anonymous
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    Dear pikachumew2:

    There is much value in that your father did not and does not abuse you and your brother, that he has often been kind to you and honest as well: much value in that and I like him for that, so I can understand you liking him for the same things. He does understand being rejected and abused in his own childhood and by his own wife, and he didn’t go on to take it out on you. He didn’t turn from abused to abusive and in so, he is a good role model for you and for your brother.

    it would have been better of course, if he was able to remove you and your brother from your mother- but that is legally impossible unless the mother is blatantly abusive, that is bone breaking or so. He would need physical documentations and hospital record and lots of legal maneuvering and money to do all that.

    Sure, it would have been best if he was careful to begin with about who he married.

    Could have/ would have- and there reality is what it is. As to your question, my answer is: no, your dad is not a horrible father. In the situation you are in, you and your brother being minor, without blatant horribly visible abuse by your mother, there really is nothing he can do.

    anita

    #84095
    Anonymous
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    Thank you. I often think over this a lot, with most people saying how he is horrible. He is weak, which is a reason why he sometimes does nothing or stand by mom in some situations. But, if I were to really talk to him, he would understand my side if the story and apologize. However, I often don’t tell him how i feel. If I tell him, my mom will pester us until someone says everything, resulting in a horrifying situation. My dad is also sensetive. My brother and I are all he has. If we were gone or he had to live in his own, I believe he would either fall into a depression or commit suicide. It’s sad, since my dad always notices when I’m sad. Our conversations usually goes.
    Dad: “Jess, you look sad. Are you happy?”
    Me: “Yes dad, I’m happy.”
    Dad: “No your not. I can tell. I want you to be happy. Tell me.”
    Me: “Dad really, I’m happy.”
    Dad: “But Jessie, I hate seeing you sad. Your my little girl, and I want to see you happy. Tell me, is something bothering you? Did mom do something?”
    Me: “Dad really, I’m ok.”
    Dad: “Jessica, if something is bothering you, tell me.”
    Me: “We can chat later, Im just tired.”
    Dad: “Ok sweetie. Remember, always pray to God. I love you,
    Me: “I love you to dad.
    I wish I could really tell him about my mom, but she’ll hurt us badly.

    #84207
    Anonymous
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    Anita, my new gmail is toussjess5457!

    #84211
    Anonymous
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    Dear pikachemew2:

    i sent you an email to the old address I had and then to this new one above, I hope you got them? If you got the gmail to the address above I will write future ones to the one above. Please write me back.
    anita

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