Hello. This situation has been bothering me for a while, and I would love your input. Recently, my ex and I broke up. We spent years together, some of which was long distance. We worked through everything together and were almost getting married. We were both certain that we were the “right one” for each other and often reminded each other of how lucky we were.

After that discussion, he completely changed. He went from “I want you to do what makes you happy” to “I need you to work for me in the future, because we’ll make a lot more money that way.” He said the latter several times, to the point where I was completely numb with shock. He also said he’d always take his parents’ side, and that they had never treated me condescendingly. He let our relationship go.

Ever since, we’ve stayed in touch sporadically – I was the first to check up on him, wondering if he really meant what he said. I’ve apologized for leaving that first time, but he’s never apologized for his part in everything. I’m more accepting now of our separation, and I don’t want to create tension between him and his parents, but I can’t help but still love him so much. It stuns me to think that he changed so quickly.

I can’t help but worry that this was all my fault. What is your impression of my situation? What do you suggest? 

Thank you for any suggestions you have for me.