I think there is no point going over the past in your head again and again because it is done. Maybe in an ideal world you would have made the decision to leave him before you moved, but you didn’t. I don’t think that it is helpful for either of you to hang on to a sense of guilt because of that situation. It certainly doesn’t mean that you owe him anything, or that he owes you anything.

I also don’t think it’s helpful to look at this situation in terms of the fact that you currently support him. He is a grown adult and if you do break up he will be able to support himself.

What I find unclear in your comments is how you truly feel about this man. Do you love him? You don’t use the word love in your post. You don’t use many positive words to describe him at all, apart from at the very end where you describe him as a person you ‘otherwise enjoy’.

I think it’s important to be clear about that because that’s the backbone of the issue.

Is the situation that, if tomorrow, you found he had a job or was studying, you would be happy and content with the relationship?

Or is it that, really in your heart of hearts, no matter what he does you wont be happy because deep down you don’t really want to be with him at all?

Really only you know. I hope you find everything that is good and wholesome.