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  • August 24, 2015 at 12:20 pm #82267
    Anonymous
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    Dear Judy:

    For me to give you advice I need to know if you talked to your parents about your miserable college experience? If you did, what did you say, what did they say? Where does the communication stand? If you didn’t- why not? What do they think your experience is like: do you tell them it is okay?

    anita

    August 24, 2015 at 2:45 pm #82293
    Judy
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    My parents do know. Or at least they know, but they don’t know the extent of my unhappiness.
    They know of my struggles with school, and with making friends. They know about my depression and anxiety. They know about all of the drama that has occurred within the past two years. I just don’t think they understand HOW much I don’t enjoy being at this university.

    August 24, 2015 at 2:59 pm #82294
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    Dear Judy:

    The choice to attend this university was a group-choice, the group is your mother, your father and you. Three people that I know about. your parents moved so to get in state tuition. They invested in this group choice and you invested moving with them as well as attending it as long as you have. This choice is not working out well. You are paying with much distress. The group choice should be re-visited by the group who made this choice. You should sit with your parents and discuss it the best you can, like three adults. Each person invested in it. You are greatly suffering. You should not suffer alone. Some solution should be worked on to relieve your suffering. If you stop attending the university their investment will be lost and so will your investment. But so is life, lots of what we invest in does not bring the reward intended. We have to be flexible enough to re-evaluate choices made for success or failure and make new choices the best we can. There can be growth out of this, your growth, a growth of your relationship with your parents.

    You may choose to attend your bf’s college? And you may have to do it without an additional investment on your parents’ part.

    anita

    August 25, 2015 at 9:08 am #82357
    Anonymous
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    Dear Judy,

    Hang in there. It sounds really hard. I had a tough time too when i went to a top University. I couldnt really connect, found myself lost about the future and my inferiority complex just got worse. My boyfriend seemed to be happier in his college back home though he had more than enough family trouble. I would say two things here –

    1) If you really cant take it anymore, then go to an environment that nourishes you rather than depletes your soul. In the long run, its your happiness that counts and your happiness, well-being in turn will get you closer to your peak performance.

    2) Other side of the coin: Have you really pushed your boundaries yet and explored the opportunities college has to offer?

    Think about it.

    – Moon

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