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  • June 17, 2017 at 8:02 am #153768
    Aks
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    Hi Anita,

    I want to share other aspect of my side also. The another reason that he blocked me from all sources is that i have been lying to him from last 7-8 months…and i told him about this..actualy after feeling mental pressure and fear of losing him..i lied him that i am talking to my parents..and sometimes i gave him hope that after talking to them it seems they would get ready..and one time i lied that my parents wants to meet him..and he reached at meeting place..and then again i lied that they could not come..and some days back i told him all the truth..that i didnt talk to my parents and all those were lies which i told you…i know i am wrong in this part…i dont know why i did this…as per him i played with his feelings and emotions..but still he gave me chance and asked me to talk…now he got frustrated with me from this kind of behavior..i dont know why i am doing all this..when he needs explanation for all this..i have only one answer that i didnt want to lose him…so i lied to him…today again he phoned me…and asked the same question whether i had a talk with my parents or not..with the words that please dont lie…he said that once i should talk to them and tell them that he wants to meet them..he is ready to meet them…i know i have never revealed this part of story…i told this today so that u can get better idea of the things…

    June 17, 2017 at 8:33 am #153774
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    Dear Aks:

    On the practical level, you talking to your parents is not going to do a thing for your boyfriend. He focuses on you talking to your parents as if (AS IF) it will help the two of you get married. But like your sister said, and according to your parents’ reaction that one time, and according to your own evaluation- they will continue to deny this proposed marriage.

    I am bewildered about his insistence that you talk with them.

    Like I wrote to you many times before, he shouldn’t have pressured you to talk with them, not only because it is fruitless, but because of the torture you have experienced for so long because of his relentless and unfair pressure.

    You lied to him- led him on- and shouldn’t have. The reason you did is that you were afraid to lose him.

    Back to the title of your thread: “In the toughest time… what to do??”- my answer at this point is: end this relationship. The more you share, the less I like your boyfriend. As I wrote before: if you did get married with him, he is likely to apply unfair pressure on you, I believe, regarding future issues. This is not healthy for you.

    anita

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