I came out of a seriously abusive relationship almost two years ago.

The best thing you can do is focus on your child. They’re going to need you more than ever if you leave the picture and must come first before the possibility of another relationship.Find stability on your own, build yourself esteem and confidence back. You and your child deserve that.

You must focus on yourself and your child before you find someone else or you won’t be making stable foundations for your child to develop and it may turn into a constant tousling back and forth between uncertainty to uncertainty.

Also, if this guy leaves his current partner for you, what’s to say he won’t do the same later down the line to you? :/

Take a couple of deep breaths and decide based on what is best for your baby, with you supporting them wholehearted, happy and feeling confident.

It takes a massive amount of courage to be a single mother, and a massive amount to leave a potentially abusive relationship, especially if they’ve apologised over and over… You’re doing the right thing by stepping away. No one deserves to be made to feel continuously to blame or to be at the short end of someones fuse, especially if they are a loved one and a ‘life partner’.

I would, right now, forget this other guy as partner material. You have your life to build and he seems to be only hindering and hurting you too by saying things about how he’d like it to work and then going cold when it comes to leaving his partner. Be strong on your own. You need no one else but you and your son or daughter.

When you feel lost, look to your baby. They’ll be your light.

All of my love to you both. x

i broke up with my x of 13yrs in 2009 and in 2009 i met the guy in cam currenlty dating. we have been with one another 4years. when i met him he was married and 1 year later was divorced. he has a son. ive asked him b4 if he wants to get married but after coming out of a bad marriage hes been hessitating. i have severe trust issues. i follow him. i check up on him all to make sure hes not lying or cheating. i havent caught him doing anything. he has soooo many females friends and he is a very social person. but i feel like he isnt serious about me anymore, when we started he showed me SO much affection and loved being around me. it seems now that he is sooo distant and really doesnt care about my feelings. i think he’s so into his friends and just wanting to do his own thing that he doesnt care about what may happen to us.