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I'm still in love with my ex… I punched him because he used drugs…

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    Anonymous
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    Dear mossyyogi:
    My input is about one point: being judgmental vs. evaluative. To evaluate whehter is is good for us to be involved with this or that particular other person is necessary for self interest and self protection. If his use of drugs hurt you and will hurt you if you are in an intimate relationship with him- then don’t be. It doesn’t mean that you have to be drug free to get to that decision and it doesn’t mean that he having used drugs means he is a totally bad person. Forming the evaluation that being involved with a person with his drug habits is hurting you- is a valid evaluation.You are not making a universal judgment, a potical decleration etc. You are only making a personal, subjective evaluation of what is effective/ workable for you and what is not.
    anita

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    kristenf
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    Hey Will,

    I completely applaud you for being able to let it all out there like you did. There are so many helpful Twelve Step programs out there for sufferers of addiction, AND for people who are in relationships/love people who are suffering from addiction. Perhaps you can check some of those out. Also, there is a great book called “Codependent No More” by Melody Beattie. Maybe you will find some comfort or relatability in one of those suggestions.

    Hope that helped,

    Kristen

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