Dear dreaming715:
You wrote: “I have to believe I’m good enough just the way I am. So let me brain-storm some ideas..”
I want to give you my feedback on your brain-stormed ideas:
*You are able to evaluate a person as abusive and protect yourself from such.
*You are able to survive abuse, heartache, disappointments and a chronic health condition.
*You are able to live alone and manage your life well.
*You are open to experiment, to try new things.
*You are able to care for/ love selected others.
These are powerful evidence for your resourcefulness. The reason you are good enough, inherently valuable and worthy and the greatest resource for your boyfriend is the last point, that you are a loving person yourself.
Your inherent worth, that which requires no action on your part, that with which you were born with, I believe, is you being loving.
The rest is all good.
You asked for thoughts or advice on how to keep your insecurities and fear at bay-
by noticing your loving nature and seeing/ feeling your worth being in that nature, simply by you feeling loving, simply for feeling it. This makes you a good enough person to receive his love for a long, long time.
anita
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