Dear Carley:

Thank you for your empathy and support, much appreciated!

“Is it too farfetched to say you emit a loving motherly-vibe around you despite seemingly having quite the critical mother?“- I am flattered to receive this compliment, that I emit a loving motherly-vibe, thank you!

“I haven’t successfully passed my test in regard to parental issues, but I imagine it must’ve taken a lot of courage and perseverance to overcome. Fixing the roots is always trickier than trimming the split ends“- (1) You are welcome to share about your parental issues, if you want to, (2) It did take a lot of courage and perseverance on my part to end contact my mother, about eight and a half years ago, (3) “trimming the split ends” in regard to an abusive relationship is not enough when the abuse started so early and lasted for way too long because the damage is not contained in the limited areas of split ends, it spreads way beyond!

“One of the most interesting patterns I’ve seen lately are children who spend their childhood in the least optimal of family circumstances… grow up into an adult that is the exact opposite of the adult their parents are…. Such shedding of childhood trauma is most impressive“- doing the exact opposite of anything undesirable is the tendency, in the context of parenting and in other contexts, but it is not equal to being healthy. Shedding of childhood trauma is very impressive, when it happens over time, gradually.

“I’ve digressed. Thank you for sticking with me ’til the end. I must say, though, it’s refreshing to read a story about you after seeing countless threads where you tend to others’ stories. Stay safe, Anita!“- thank you! Stay safe yourself, Happy New Year and post again anytime you would like to post!

anita