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  • May 21, 2017 at 11:40 pm #150255
    Susannah
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    Dear Kalleid,

     

    what happened was not approppriate. I am surprised to hear that his show includes such sexistic content; that no one has told him that it was not funny but sexual harassment!

     

    It is not right if you let that incident “steal” the pleasure of the place that you have enjoyed before! Then he would “win”.

     

    The incident was so surprising and happened so quickly that it left you without a chance to tell your opinion about it. You still have that chance! You know his name so you can leave a note somewhere in his social media etc. It it makes you feel empowered, you can do it with your name. I would not. I would use my option to be anonymous; there is no need to tell your identity if it does not feel comfortable. Your name is not important here, but the fact that he did the wrong thing is and he needs to hear that.

    May 22, 2017 at 10:34 pm #150346
    Kalleid
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    Thanks Susannah. I’m also surprised no one said anything, because there were a lot of other women present AND it’s a very liberal, pro-LGBT, progressive, gender-conscious space usually. I can easily find him on social media, but I don’t know how it’s possible to leave any anonymous note on Facebook.

    May 23, 2017 at 12:49 am #150348
    Susannah
    Participant

    Dear Kalleid,

     

    I don”t know either – I am not on Facebook.

     

    People usually don”t want to interfere, which is a pity. His show has been like that before and no one has complained! This is your chance to make a difference! 🙂

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 11 months ago by Susannah.
    May 23, 2017 at 4:44 pm #150414
    secularbuddhist
    Participant

    I’m confused as to how this constitutes sexual harassment.  It would probably be more constructive to figure out why this bothers you so much, and address that. Harassment (typically of a woman) in a workplace, or other professional or social situation, involves the making of unwanted sexual advances or obscene remarks.

    May 24, 2017 at 7:38 am #150482
    Sandraorely
    Participant

    Dear Kallied,

    i think the reason no one in the audience responded negatively is because this is not sexual harassment. I might even go so far as to suggest that it was a bit selfish/entitled  of you to have responded this way to a light hearted piece of magician comedy. If he had say, asked you to get the card from his pants, made some lewd comment to you etc, that would be a different story, but nothing you described constitutes  sexual harassment in any way.

     

    That you felt so bad about it speaks more to yourself than anything else. I’m sorry you let this upset you so much, I hope you can work through whatever issues you have which let events like this upset you so much.  In two r cent tiny Buddha articles might be helpful for you, ‘How to Stop Playing the Blame Game’ and ‘7 crucial steps to minimize drama in your life’ paying particular attention to step one, which it seems you could use help with (like many of us).

    i wish you well! Hopefully you can overcome letting complete non-issues such as this upset you so much and move on to a happy, healthy life.

    June 2, 2017 at 3:31 am #151602
    Kalleid
    Participant

    Sandraorely, how incredibly rude, condescending and judgmental of you. Sounds like you’re victim blaming. I have a right to feel how I feel, and it’s not “selfish” or “entitled”. My feelings matter just as much as anyone else’s, and I am worth just as much as anyone else. I told the magician how I felt and he genuinely apologized, and it was resolved pretty well, by the way. I don’t need your “help”, thanks. This issue is thankfully over now. I’m sick of being told how I “should” or “shouldn’t” feel by other people. I am reclaiming my own right to feel and think for myself, regardless of the judgments of others. Oh, and thanks for the patronizing passive aggressive send-off at the end. That sure helped a ton. You must be very proud of yourself.

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