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  • September 23, 2016 at 6:57 pm #116082
    Anonymous
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    Dear neverhavethis:

    I read your post. In the last two lines you wrote:

    “So many questions I’m asking myself now.” – what are the questions you are asking yourself?

    “I’m not sure how to deal with this”- what do you mean by to “deal with this”?

    anita

    September 24, 2016 at 7:36 am #116127
    cardell banks
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    How do I approach the man that I rejected?

    September 24, 2016 at 8:07 am #116130
    Anonymous
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    Dear neverhavethis:

    You want to know how to approach Guy A?

    Before you did not approach him although you liked him very much because you believed he should approach you. When he did approach you, telling you that he had a crush on you, you were not available (had another boyfriend). When your relationship ended you did not let Guy A know that it ended and still expected him to approach you. When Guy A’s brother approached you, you had sex with the brother. When confronted by Guy A about you and his brother, you told Guy A that you had sex with his brother because Guy A didn’t approach you.

    So, if I understand correctly, you decided to be assertive and approach Guy A (instead of waiting for him to check if you are available and then approach you)?

    anita

    September 24, 2016 at 8:23 am #116132
    cardell banks
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    Yes, I want to tell him how sorry I am and want to make it right with him. I’m a bit afraid because its been a few years since we talked and I don’t know how to initiate the conversation without it feeling awkward.

    September 24, 2016 at 8:58 am #116140
    Alien incident47
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    Take it for what it is,you are young and so is he . It’s not like either of you were ready to settle down and make a life together, learn from this and move on . Sounds like your trying to please everyone and you can’t. No need to go chasing someone and open old wounds he has moved on let him be . He is healing himself from this experience you should do the same. Rather than focus on love at your young age focus on your future. Where you can support your self and live independently , focus on a life you want to live

    September 24, 2016 at 9:02 am #116142
    Anonymous
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    Dear neverhavethis:

    You wrote above that you “want to make it right with him”

    But in your original post you wrote that he is okay, he is right with himself at the present. You wrote: “I haven’t seen or spoke to Guy A in 7 years. From what i heard, Guy A is financially well off and is doing well for himself”

    Why interrupt his life now- is it that you want to get involved with him now because he is financially well off?

    The right thing for you to do, I believe, is learn from your mistakes for future reference with another man:

    * When you are interested in a guy who already expressed interest in you, and you become available, don’t wait for him to figure out that you are available, let him know that you became available.
    * When you are interested in a guy who already expressed interest in you, and he doesn’t approach you because he thinks you have a boyfriend (and you don’t), don’t have sex with his brother. Instead let the guy know that you are available for him, not for his brother.

    anita

    September 24, 2016 at 9:50 am #116147
    manbuddha
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    Maybe call him and show you care.
    If you still care.

    Please try not to be afraid. You are a beautiful woman, you don’t need to say much. LOL. You still have to say something though.
    Simply: Hey I was just thinking about you…how are you doing? ((he replies) and then arrange to meet. Why? The phone may make things weird.
    If he’s far away, try to set up a Skype date.

    • This reply was modified 8 years, 7 months ago by manbuddha.
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