Dear Sann:

You are welcome and thank you for your comment to me. Fear is the most powerful emotion. I was overcome by it this very morning, so its power is fresh in my experience. All I will say right now is I do not underestimate the power of fear. Sometimes I forget when I read someone ELSE’S post how scary it is. Then this morning, and even right now, it is fresh with me. So, yes, it is real. And yes, some people once they sense it, will use your fear so to control you, to use you. Maybe you can change just one thing about interactions with a person like that, not the whole thing, only part of it, just a little. Change only what you can handle emotionally.

anita

The other thing I’ve found is that sometimes things have to fail before people will make a change – e.g in you situation don’t pick up after this co-worker. Let the bosses see what she doesn’t do and let it all “”fail”. You are not paid double to do your work and hers. Do your part meticulously and let her part fall the pieces and just keep working.
Its doesn’t feel good doing it but maybe the bosses cant see how you are holding it all together and the toll it is taking. If they don’t see the problem or experience it then they wont do anything to change it.