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    Courtney
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    I’ve been seeing a guy for a few weeks and so far he’s been really great. We talk every day, went on two official dates, he always acts respectful, he compliments me often, and is physically affectionate (holding hands, hugging, kissing, etc…).
    Today I noticed he didn’t text me good morning (he usually does) and I was caught off guard and started to worry. I realize this is MY problem. I believe this is due to a lack of self-confidence and being hurt by men who came off very interested in the beginning then all of a sudden I never heard from them again.

    Getting to a point where I start to open my heart to people only to have them completely leave me really affects me. How do I overcome this? I would love to be like, “Oh whatever, they’re just not interested anymore, time to move on…” But that’s not realistic because I’ve developed genuine feelings for the person and want to get to know them better.

    Help! 🙁

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    Anonymous
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    Dear Courtney:
    How about calling him and asking him how he is doing (making sure he is okay and not in a bad state) and then asking him if it is a good time, you want to talk a bit and then tell him that you developed feelings for him, thought he was interested in you, or hoped he is and now you are worried that he is not? And listen to what he says.

    Why not? (I heard a voice in my head saying: “This advice sucks- people don’t do that so early in a relationship- it doesn’t go with the “rules” of wait-and-see and act indifferent or whatever the protocol is) And I still ask: Why not?

    What do you have to lose? I mean this way at least you will be true to yourself, honor what you feel and express it in a way that is responsible (that is you are first checking that he is okay, then you are not blaming him or mistreating him by calling and asking)- so why not REVEAL and EXPOSE yourself this way, be SEEN, honor yourself, your feelings by expressing them responsibly?

    I feel very strongly that being authentic is the best way to go about life- this way at least, if you are rejected, at least you didn’t start the rejection by hiding your thoughts and feelings first. What do you think?
    anita

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