I keep on going for the two of us x

Hi and thanks for reading – as the following is a very long story short (14yrs of it) I will keep it to bullet points:

• Met husband to be a month before starting uni
• During courtship I left as his ex kept phoning him up asking him to dump me and go back to him
• After 3 months husband came back and since then not been apart
• Husbands best friend female always talked about husbands ex in front of me – husband says he told her not to
• Husbands mum n dad always called me friend of the family – husbands large family of cousins etc pain in the ass – non ever liked me nor made me feel warm or welcome
• We got married in a quiet 8-10 people at a place his mum liked and told not to tell extended family! At this point husband’s dad critical in hospital – husband took me to Paris for a week honeymoon – calls every day from his mum come back!!
• Many months later his dad back home – I even nursed/cared for him as was in same unit – crit care nurse etc
• Did large 50^th birthday bash for husband and anniversary including extended family – 20-25 turned up we paid for sit down meal for all etc etc all looking moody as hell!!
• I sent x-mass cards to his entire family etc and bought presents etc not him, his goddaughter a cow never thanked me – plus never included me in the card or a gift!!
• A family get together a cousin’s husband (straight man) put his hand right high up on husband’s thigh and left it there for 8-10mins!! Husband didn’t remove it!! I saw it and left!!
• At family do’s all his family were mean, nasty and trying to make fun of me!!
• Husbands brother mental health probs serious, never diagnosed as his mum protected him
• Brother in law serious control freak same as his mum and dad worked husband almost to death on family farm whilst his brother sat in doors on his stinking ass – he never bathes
• Too much in between to write but very unpleasant and unhappiness
• 4 yrs ago husbands dad died – same time I was bed bound for 3 yrs with bleeding etc etc then a year of severe anaemia bed bound had to give up work
• The family farm was in ruins due to husband’s brother and mother!! Then they were to be evicted his mother had stroke and after 1.5yrs is at last in a care home near where me and husband live as she needs 24hr care – husbands brother is soon to be forced out of farm he refuses to leave despite been offered a lovely house to rent!!
• Extended family have always interfered never supported us but always caused trouble – today yet again one poisoned cousins wife sent a hurtful letter!!

Soooo, I write to say as gay married Christians (no church to attend where we live as they are not accepting!!) and his family still trying to cause trouble and unhappiness – I soldier on – why well because we love each other and because without each other it just wouldn’t be the same, we both now deal with health issues, as well as his mum and other family members, we both shout n scream at times, BUT we ride these relationship waves, yes we have a choice we could split up and who knows what would happen – but – these external damaging family members are not welcome into my marriage if they are not building us up, but trying to pull us apart after 14yrs then ignore/block and shelve their hate mail! When husband and I go out for a day we have a good day and enjoy it, not had a holiday in 6yrs but we get by – we live 1.5-2hrs away from the poisonous family but still the odd one turns up to cause unhappiness or writes or calls to spread their venom.

What I do is pray, light incense and cleanse myself and house and carry on, I told one family member enough was enough that I will never speak to any of husbands extended family again – as after 14yrs of hell you really need to draw a line of toxic people that effect your life.  Now before you judge – remember you do not know the whole story of all the hurt I and my husband have endured – and I write not for sympathy but for others in the same boat which I have been reading about on here.  P.s I now visit his mum with and without hubby and manage all the finances and relevant care such as meetings, shopping, discussions with care manager etc etc, she smiles at me and says she loves me, I do her x

Finally Hebrews 13:6 is ace – The Lord is my helper, I will not be afraid, what can anyone do to me. – I partake in mindfulness, pray, take Eucharist when we can I even do a small service for hubby me and mum as a non denominational ordained priest I think it is right an fitting too – please no haters need reply – A I am a gay Christian God made and loves me – if you hate this your hating God and others which really makes YOU a hater not a lover of others! And I’ve heard ALL the anti gay stuff a 1000 times so you really can’t say anything that hasn’t already been said – and when you walk a mile in my shoes – then come back and we’ll talk!

Please note should you feel the need to reply and in doing so cause me further hurt/upset know this – for ALL who do may it come back to you and yours a 1000 fold!

To those who can empathize and wish to respond with kindness may your lives be enriched and blessed, RevRy xx