Dear anaya:
It was not wrong for you to fall in love with another guy. We are not guilty for how we feel. Our feelings happen automatically: we don’t choose them. We cannot be guilty of what we don’t choose.
And no wonder you fell for another guy: you and the boyfriend before had lots of fights. Fights are distressing. Also, he cheated on you- that is distressing too. No wonder you looked for comfort, for calm, with another guy.
Your ex boyfriend is 100% responsible for cheating on you. And he is 50% responsible for the fights you had. He chose to cheat on you and he chose to fight. Naturally we enjoy or suffer consequences of what we choose to do.
You are not responsible for his choices and the consequences of his choices. Focus on your new relationship, hope it is fight-free, loving and healthy. Let the old boyfriend live his life and you- live your own.
anita
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