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  • January 27, 2017 at 9:32 am #126241
    Anonymous
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    Dear selfhealingorganism:

    Your second thread gives me more information about your mindset and life situation. It is very unfortunate for you that you were born to the woman you were born to.

    Understandably, for the child that you were, what your mother said was very important and so, what your grandmother told you was also very meaningful to you. As the adult that you are, if you look at the situation as objectively as you can, you can see-

    that neither your mother nor your grandmother deserve to have authority over your thinking.

    And so, the two options don’t have to be: make money in the sex industry OR be a bag lady.

    I suppose this is why you came up with the third option expressed in your first thread: to be in a monogamous relationship where the man takes care of you financially while you get more education, have a profitable career and/ or be a stay-at-home-mom.

    I will be waiting for more of your thoughts and feelings in this thread and the first, hoping to communicate with you further.

    anita

    January 27, 2017 at 11:11 am #126257
    Peachgummirings
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    Hi Anita. Thank you for your responses. I am accually not sure where i picked up the idea that it would be great to get married to someone who would take care of finances while i go to school and or have a baby… I didnt even date for years in my 20s for fear of getting pregnant and stuck with a zero and i didnt want to go back to school until recently bc i had gone to a trade school and i liked my job even though i had been struggling to make money. I didnt realize that i was never going to have the time and money to have a life beyond it until i was too poor to pay rent and went back to stripping. I had quit stripping and got my trade business flowing with the economy goin up again and also went to bartneding school and had got a full time job around the time i was getting serious with my boyfriend and he asked me to move in with him and i knew he didnt make much money and i would be paying part of the rent. After i moved in, i quit my job and then closed my business a few months later all with his advice and ran out of savings a few months later. I began learning a new trade at home while going to school online and everytime i would mention gettin a job he said no and when i did get another job to save our behinds on the rent, he told me to quit after i racked up my first paycheck so i could concentrate on my new trade and school but we ran out of money and i had to quit school and havent had money to invest into my new trade. Anyway i am now very glad that i did not have a baby under those circumstances and i know i dont ever want to have to rely on my partner for money again and i dont want to be used either. I guess i should broaden my thinking…

    January 27, 2017 at 11:44 am #126260
    Anonymous
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    Dear selfhealingorganism:

    Your last post is congruent with my point above: “neither your mother nor your grandmother deserve to have authority over your thinking” and adds to it:

    Neither your mother or your grandmother or ex boyfriend… or next boyfriend should have authority over your thinking.

    Your best bet is to rely on your own thinking. Those three mentioned have failed you. You know better than the three of you what is best for you.

    Making your own money; making your own money in a way that doesn’t make you feel badly about yourself; picking the next boyfriend as one to have way better thinking than the last one- all these are best for you, according to what you shared yourself.

    Do rely on your own logic, your own experience… learn from what you see around you (and inside you)- what you’ve seen and heard and experienced in the past- make yourself more and more the authority over your life.

    And please do post anytime- would like to continue to communicate here with you.

    anita

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