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  • May 22, 2021 at 10:35 pm #380289
    Anonymous
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    i saw some NHS (UK) therapists a while ago, and during conversation i told them i didn’t want kids. they looked shocked, and tried to lecture me out of it. so i just swore at them and walked out. i know they didn’t question anybody else, and i used to just mess with them in sessions they clearly were sociopaths. Sociopaths generally tend to dismiss rules because they think they are above them by right. The RULES state that it’s not a mental illness to not want kids. So what gives? Clearly a bias. I believe if everybody else gets through, so can I.

    May 23, 2021 at 4:20 pm #380338
    tarrants_of_erna
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    I have friends who didn’t want kids & that’s fine by me. It’s their personal & private choice and nothing is wrong with that. In fact before I met my DH, I was career focused & did not want kids either. I didn’t have time for kids nor did I want to be wiping snotty noses. I eventually had one child later in life, who I adore & love to death, but I still don’t like “children” overall. I still don’t understand the obsession of people needing others to have children. I got really sick of people asking me that before & I got really sick of people asking me about when I was having a 2nd one!

    May 25, 2021 at 10:02 am #380384
    Maria
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    Hi coa445,

    I had the first consultation with a therapist about a couple of months ago. I had a problem and wanted to find a solution. The session went great mostly, but there was a moment I understood I’d never come back to her again when she asked me about kids. I don’t want to have kids right now because I’m just not ready yet. That doesn’t mean I don’t want them at all. But she misinterpreted it. Her words were: “Mary, honey, your age of 26-27 is perfect for having kids because the uterus SOLIDIFIES over time, and it’s harder to bear a child.” I mean, really? 

    People who want to have kids and people who don’t – both these groups are NORMAL. We should learn to understand: some people can think otherwise and want different things in life. In Russia, this is still a problem. We all heard about the book “Domostroi,” which is an extreme image of tyranny in family life. And some Russians consider it as a call-to-action. But life changes and ideas change too. 

     

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