Dear puChop:

You wrote about her: “she needs to take responsiblity for her own life. It’s not her fault that she grew up neglected and abused, but at our age, she can’t keep going with that narrative… picking ourselves up is often the only way to move forward as we get older”.

About yourself, you wrote: “the constant isolation when I was growing up…I’m older now so I have to start picking myself up instead of whining about the past. It’s the only way to move forward”.

It looks like you see yourself in her, both having had difficult childhood that wasn’t your faults, both having talked about it without results, both are older now, both need to take responsibility for your own lives, both down and therefore in need to be picked up  (“picking ourselves up… picking myself up”), both stuck backward and in need to move forward.

Do you want the two of you to move up and forward together, as a couple?

anita

Hello puchop.  I hope you can take a holiday soon.  I was overdue for holidays which kept being put off.  Finally I took 2 weeks off when I was close to serious burnout.  I did as you are thinking.  Didn’t go away, partly forcfina mn coal reasons and tiredness.

Just before I was supposed to go back to work a week ago, I became ill.  I’m certain burnout had a lot to do with it. Went to Dr again today and I’m likely not going to be well enough to go back to work until next week.

It hasn’t been worth the toll on my health.  I’m sorry you are going through these issues.  I understand. I identify.

Please take care of your health and yourself

How are you, puChop- better I hope?

anita